{"id":50746,"date":"2019-08-29T01:15:56","date_gmt":"2019-08-29T01:15:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/127.0.0.1\/aee\/aee-1217-dont-dwell-on-it-how-to-respond-appropriately-when-someone-is-stressed-in-english\/"},"modified":"2023-04-25T15:44:43","modified_gmt":"2023-04-25T15:44:43","slug":"aee-1217-dont-dwell-on-it-how-to-respond-appropriately-when-someone-is-stressed-in-english","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.allearsenglish.com\/aee-1217-dont-dwell-on-it-how-to-respond-appropriately-when-someone-is-stressed-in-english\/","title":{"rendered":"AEE 1217: Don’t Dwell On it! How to Respond Appropriately When Someone Is Stressed in English"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Do you have a hard time letting go of something? <\/p>\n

If something disturbs you, maybe you have a bad day or a bad conversation with someone, is it hard to stop thinking about what happened? <\/p>\n

If you couldn\u2019t stop thinking about something then someone may say this phrase to you : \u201cDon\u2019t dwell on it.\u201d<\/p>\n

We\u2019re going to look at this phrase, how to use it, and why it\u2019s such an important way of connecting overall. <\/p>\n

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Learning To Talk About Letting It Go<\/strong><\/p>\n

What does it really mean when you say not to dwell on something? <\/p>\n

To dwell on something is to keep thinking about it, almost obsessively.<\/p>\n

It means that you are not be able to get out of that cycle of thoughts and get over the disruption. <\/p>\n

You can\u2019t seem to move forward because you keep thinking about this thing that disrupts you.<\/p>\n

So today we are talking about how to use this phrase in a conversation, because it\u2019s likely to come up a lot.<\/p>\n

This is so important because it applies whenever you notice someone can\u2019t just \u201clet something go.\u201d <\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want to use this when it\u2019s something serious, but otherwise it has a very distinct purpose and is common. <\/p>\n

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Examples:<\/strong><\/p>\n

L: Oh my gosh I still can\u2019t believe I lost my phone. It\u2019s eating me up inside.<\/p>\n

M: Oh Lindsay\u2013don\u2019t dwell on it. Who hasn\u2019t lost their cell phone? I know it\u2019s irritating but it happens to everyone so don\u2019t feel bad!<\/p>\n

M: Why didn\u2019t he call me back? I thought we had a great time on our date!<\/p>\n

L: Don\u2019t dwell on it, Michelle. If he\u2019s not interested that\u2019s his loss!<\/p>\n

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Using It The Right Way<\/strong><\/p>\n

So we\u2019ve said that you don\u2019t want to use it for serious situations, and you therefore want to be really sure of the right way to use it. <\/p>\n

This phrase is great for connection because it snaps people out of what may be bothering them. <\/p>\n

It\u2019s like saying \u201cdon\u2019t worry about it\u201d but in a more unique way. <\/p>\n

It\u2019s comforting and friendly, and since it\u2019s intended in this way it\u2019s usually received well.<\/p>\n

There are other ways you can use it that will sound a bit more abrupt, and so you want to be careful about using this phrase in that way.<\/p>\n

Like if you were to say \u201cstop dwelling on it\u201d this is not as friendly.<\/p>\n

If however you just nicely said \u201cdon\u2019t dwell on it\u201dthen it can be really helpful to someone.<\/p>\n

This is another instance where tone of voice matters, and can make a huge difference in the way that this phrase is heard and received.<\/p>\n

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Putting This Into Practice<\/strong><\/p>\n

Knowing how to use this phrase in conversation is part of it.<\/p>\n

Another big part of it however is learning how to actually put this into practice.<\/p>\n

There are times where we all need to take a step back and figure things out calmly. <\/p>\n

So how do you stop dwelling on things? <\/p>\n

Here are some tips to help you to calm down, relax<\/p>\n