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<\/figure>\n<\/div>\nSubscribe and get the transcripts delivered by email.<\/strong> <\/p>\nLearn to speak naturally with the American accent.<\/strong><\/p>\nClick here to subscribe and save 50%<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\nDon\u2019t Let Shyness Hold You Back<\/strong> Anymore<\/strong><\/h3>\n Making connections in another language is one of the most rewarding experiences! <\/p>\n
But what happens when shyness gets in the way? <\/p>\n
Even the most outgoing person can suffer from shyness sometimes, and you don\u2019t want it to interfere with your ability to do things. <\/p>\n
You may feel shy when you feel unsure, or when you are being hard on yourself because it may cause you to want to retreat a bit. <\/p>\n
Sometimes we can\u2019t stop ourselves from criticizing our errors, accent, or inability to remember vocabulary\u2014and sadly this can keep us from making connections. <\/p>\n
Instead of denying or eliminating shyness, embrace it!<\/p>\n
This is a whole shift in mindset that can really serve you well in your life. <\/p>\n
Be curious about what causes it and see it as a journey, and this can help you to really get in touch with what\u2019s important. <\/p>\n
This will also help you to figure out the best way to move forward recognizing the type of personality that you have, and how you can work around it. <\/p>\n
Here are some other episodes to check out that we have done, which may help you tremendously. <\/p>\n
\n- How to Customize Your Study Plan If You\u2019re Shy<\/a> <\/li>\n
- Are You the Problem? How to Learn English If You\u2019re Shy<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
If you suffer from shyness, then learn to embrace it and figure out how you can use it to your advantage moving forward. <\/p>\n
<\/div>\nTurning Shyness Into Something That Works For You<\/strong><\/h3>\nThis is where you have to get honest with yourself and really assess what is going on. <\/p>\n
You want to identify the shyness when it\u2019s occurring, and then figure out a good strategy for handling it. <\/p>\n
So let\u2019s look at some helpful tactics for dealing with the shyness that you may feel, and then working to turn it into a positive and helpful thing moving forward. <\/p>\n
1. Check your internal monologue<\/em><\/strong>: This is where you have to really listen to what you are saying and how you are feeling. This is about reflection and listening to what your thoughts and inner voice are saying to you. Are you understanding and encouraging? Are you good to yourself in this area? Don\u2019t deny shyness or try to shut it off by saying negative things to yourself such as : <\/p>\n\n- Stop being shy. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
\n- Why aren\u2019t you speaking up? <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
\n- Just open your mouth! <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
\n- It\u2019s my fault! Instead, speak to yourself like you would speak to a friend. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
This is a complete change in the way that you do things, and it can work really well towards dealing with shyness. If a friend said to you, \u201cWhen I try to talk with native speakers, I turn red and my stomach hurts, and I can\u2019t do it!\u201d You would never say, \u201cIt\u2019s your fault! Stop being shy, just open your mouth!\u201d You would be understanding, compassionate and encouraging. Use that same approach and attitude towards yourself. Make sure your internal monologue is compassionate and patient. <\/p>\n
2. Let go of perfectionism<\/em><\/strong>: Perfect isn\u2019t realistic or achievable, and you should never try to achieve it with an unrealistic standard. Not wanting to mess up in a second language can lead to shyness, and though this is normal you don\u2019t want it to hold you back. You\u2019re not getting tested. This is not a performance. The goal is a human connection in the language you enjoy learning. If you can change your mindset and think of it this way, then you can really help yourself to be successful and even enjoy the journey. <\/p>\nExplore why you experience shyness. Approach it with curiosity rather than blame or shame. This alone may help you to work through the shyness, and turn it into a positive thing. Is it because I have high expectations of myself? Am I intimidated by someone, which makes the situation triggering for shyness and self consciousness? Why do I feel this way? Distance yourself from the emotions and look at it from a different perspective. If you can take the time to go through this way of thinking, then it may benefit you tremendously. This can help you to learn a lot about yourself, but also ensure that you move forward with a better attitude. <\/p>\n
3. Don\u2019t compare yourself to others<\/em><\/strong>: Do you think \u201cWow, this person has been learning for 1 year and I\u2019ve been learning for 5 years and they are more advanced!\u201d You never know the whole story. This is about you and your journey, and therefore you don\u2019t want to waste your time comparing yourself to others. It\u2019s not realistic and it\u2019s not going to help you to get to where you want to be. Focus on what YOU can do to improve, and then use this to motivate you rather than looking at what others are doing. Remember the old phrase that applies very much here which is \u201cComparison is the thief of joy.\u201d <\/p>\n4. Seek people you feel comfortable with<\/em><\/strong>: This is your support network, or the people that you lean on the most. Look for something like a group of like-minded peers. Start with one person you feel comfortable with, and then build from there. Find one meaningful connection with a native speaker who makes you feel safe expressing yourself. This can help you to really get out of your shell and work towards combatting the shyness that may be holding you back. <\/p>\nSome ideas for finding people you feel comfortable with include:<\/p>\n
\n- Facebook groups <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
\n- Language or interest meetups<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
\n- Volunteer at an organization where other volunteers will speak the target language <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
If you can find the right people, then they can help to build you up and never tear you down. <\/p>\n
You can lean on them when you need to, and they can help you to get to where you want to be in a much more effective and positive way.<\/p>\n
Bring your English to the advanced level with new vocabulary and natural expressions.<\/strong> <\/p>\n Subscribe and get the transcripts delivered by email.<\/strong> <\/p>\n Learn to speak naturally with the American accent.<\/strong><\/p>\n Click here to subscribe and save 50%<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n Making connections in another language is one of the most rewarding experiences! <\/p>\n But what happens when shyness gets in the way? <\/p>\n Even the most outgoing person can suffer from shyness sometimes, and you don\u2019t want it to interfere with your ability to do things. <\/p>\n You may feel shy when you feel unsure, or when you are being hard on yourself because it may cause you to want to retreat a bit. <\/p>\n Sometimes we can\u2019t stop ourselves from criticizing our errors, accent, or inability to remember vocabulary\u2014and sadly this can keep us from making connections. <\/p>\n Instead of denying or eliminating shyness, embrace it!<\/p>\n This is a whole shift in mindset that can really serve you well in your life. <\/p>\n Be curious about what causes it and see it as a journey, and this can help you to really get in touch with what\u2019s important. <\/p>\n This will also help you to figure out the best way to move forward recognizing the type of personality that you have, and how you can work around it. <\/p>\n Here are some other episodes to check out that we have done, which may help you tremendously. <\/p>\n If you suffer from shyness, then learn to embrace it and figure out how you can use it to your advantage moving forward. <\/p>\n This is where you have to get honest with yourself and really assess what is going on. <\/p>\n You want to identify the shyness when it\u2019s occurring, and then figure out a good strategy for handling it. <\/p>\n So let\u2019s look at some helpful tactics for dealing with the shyness that you may feel, and then working to turn it into a positive and helpful thing moving forward. <\/p>\n 1. Check your internal monologue<\/em><\/strong>: This is where you have to really listen to what you are saying and how you are feeling. This is about reflection and listening to what your thoughts and inner voice are saying to you. Are you understanding and encouraging? Are you good to yourself in this area? Don\u2019t deny shyness or try to shut it off by saying negative things to yourself such as : <\/p>\n This is a complete change in the way that you do things, and it can work really well towards dealing with shyness. If a friend said to you, \u201cWhen I try to talk with native speakers, I turn red and my stomach hurts, and I can\u2019t do it!\u201d You would never say, \u201cIt\u2019s your fault! Stop being shy, just open your mouth!\u201d You would be understanding, compassionate and encouraging. Use that same approach and attitude towards yourself. Make sure your internal monologue is compassionate and patient. <\/p>\n 2. Let go of perfectionism<\/em><\/strong>: Perfect isn\u2019t realistic or achievable, and you should never try to achieve it with an unrealistic standard. Not wanting to mess up in a second language can lead to shyness, and though this is normal you don\u2019t want it to hold you back. You\u2019re not getting tested. This is not a performance. The goal is a human connection in the language you enjoy learning. If you can change your mindset and think of it this way, then you can really help yourself to be successful and even enjoy the journey. <\/p>\n Explore why you experience shyness. Approach it with curiosity rather than blame or shame. This alone may help you to work through the shyness, and turn it into a positive thing. Is it because I have high expectations of myself? Am I intimidated by someone, which makes the situation triggering for shyness and self consciousness? Why do I feel this way? Distance yourself from the emotions and look at it from a different perspective. If you can take the time to go through this way of thinking, then it may benefit you tremendously. This can help you to learn a lot about yourself, but also ensure that you move forward with a better attitude. <\/p>\n 3. Don\u2019t compare yourself to others<\/em><\/strong>: Do you think \u201cWow, this person has been learning for 1 year and I\u2019ve been learning for 5 years and they are more advanced!\u201d You never know the whole story. This is about you and your journey, and therefore you don\u2019t want to waste your time comparing yourself to others. It\u2019s not realistic and it\u2019s not going to help you to get to where you want to be. Focus on what YOU can do to improve, and then use this to motivate you rather than looking at what others are doing. Remember the old phrase that applies very much here which is \u201cComparison is the thief of joy.\u201d <\/p>\n 4. Seek people you feel comfortable with<\/em><\/strong>: This is your support network, or the people that you lean on the most. Look for something like a group of like-minded peers. Start with one person you feel comfortable with, and then build from there. Find one meaningful connection with a native speaker who makes you feel safe expressing yourself. This can help you to really get out of your shell and work towards combatting the shyness that may be holding you back. <\/p>\n Some ideas for finding people you feel comfortable with include:<\/p>\n If you can find the right people, then they can help to build you up and never tear you down. <\/p>\n You can lean on them when you need to, and they can help you to get to where you want to be in a much more effective and positive way.<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<\/div>\nDon\u2019t Let Shyness Hold You Back<\/strong> Anymore<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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