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<\/figure>\n<\/div>\nSubscribe and get the transcripts delivered by email.<\/strong> <\/p>\nLearn to speak naturally with the American accent.<\/strong><\/p>\nClick here to subscribe and save 50%<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\nUnderstanding Some Background<\/strong><\/h3>\n We just did an episode about things being overrated, and we got into a bit of a discussion about how to use this with social tact. <\/p>\n
We talked about the idea of something being overrated and how that may vary amongst people.<\/p>\n
What some people feel is overrated may not necessarily be a shared opinion, and this is a whole different approach here. <\/p>\n
We spoke about an interesting situation that sometimes comes up.<\/p>\n
What if you think something was overrated, but the other person in the conversation doesn\u2019t\u2013 in fact, they happen to LOVE the thing you think is overrated?<\/p>\n
What do you do? <\/p>\n
How do you handle this type of situation? <\/p>\n
You want to be honest about your opinions but in the right way. <\/p>\n
It\u2019s all about finding the right balance of expressing your opinion, but yet not offending the other person. <\/p>\n
This is about what you say, how you say it, and ensuring that you still convey your point of view without making anyone feel bad for a difference of opinion. <\/p>\n
<\/div>\nFinding That Fine Balance<\/strong><\/h3>\n So you want to let the other person know somehow that what they love is not necessarily a shared thing. <\/p>\n
Though they may love this very thing, you are not a fan and that\u2019s okay.<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t have to give into somebody else\u2019s opinion of this, but you do want to find a way to express that you aren\u2019t a fan of it. <\/p>\n
However, you want to do this in a way that doesn\u2019t feel like you are making that person feel silly about their taste and preferences. <\/p>\n
This is where the right words and the right way of expressing it is so important. <\/p>\n
Here\u2019s what NOT to do and that matters just as much as the other alternative. <\/p>\n
Lindsay: \u201cOh my GOSH Michelle. I LOVED that new Jennifer Aniston movie.\u201d <\/p>\n
Michelle: \u201cWhat!!?!? Oh come ON Lindsay, it was TERRIBLE.\u201d <\/p>\n
What was wrong with that? <\/p>\n
The intonation that Michelle used was intense, as she clearly had a strong negative opinion. <\/p>\n
It came across as though she was questioning Lindsay\u2019s judgement, which is never going to be received well. <\/p>\n
You don\u2019t want to come across in this way because you will definitely risk offending this person. <\/p>\n
You will see this immediately in their negative reaction if you went too far or talked too harshly. Is there ever a time when it\u2019s okay to do this? <\/p>\n
You could perhaps do this with a very close friend, relative, or somebody with whom you have a very open relationship. <\/p>\n
However, you would definitely want to avoid this kind of response with someone you are trying to build a connection with.<\/p>\n
The only exception to that is if you have a very sarcastic type of relationship and therefore this would come across okay. <\/p>\n
Why do you need to be mindful of all of this and use this only with those that you are closes with? <\/p>\n
\n- You can come off as rude<\/em><\/strong>: Though you may just be expressing your opinion, if you are too brutally honest then it may come off as rude. It may appear as though you are coming down on them and therefore you are rude and aggressive. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
\n- It can make the person feel self conscious<\/em><\/strong>: They may start to question why they like this thing and therefore second guess themselves. They may suddenly feel very self aware and self conscious about something that they like if you are questioning it so strongly. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
\n- It can make them question if you have things in common<\/em><\/strong>: This could potentially hurt your overall relationship with them as they begin to wonder what you have in common. Though you may be on the same page about some things, if you come across too aggressively, then this may launch into further problems. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n
Good Strategies For Dealing With A Difference Of Opinion<\/strong><\/h3>\nWhat this comes down to is a difference of opinion, and that\u2019s a healthy and normal part of life. <\/p>\n
Though you may not necessarily understand why this person loves something so much that you don\u2019t, it\u2019s okay to feel differently. <\/p>\n
You just want to find the best way of dealing with this so as not to upset them and to keep the peace, though you aren\u2019t on the same page about this subject. <\/p>\n
So what are good ways to express you don\u2019t like something in a nicer way, but without lying? <\/p>\n
1. Be specific<\/em><\/strong>: Try to say specifically what you didn\u2019t like so that you put it out there in a factual way. It\u2019s perfectly okay to be specific like this, and it lets the other person understand where you are coming from. <\/p>\nLindsay: \u201cThat book was AMAZING!\u201d <\/p>\n
Michelle: \u201cYeah there were good parts. Did you think some of the writing was a little cheesy?\u201d <\/p>\n
2. Find one nice thing to say<\/em><\/strong>: It can even be a bit vague, but it\u2019s still finding a positive in a situation that may otherwise struggle with. If you present something positive then it makes them feel validated in a way. <\/p>\nMichelle: \u201cThis is the best cake I\u2019ve ever had.\u201d <\/p>\n
Lindsay: \u201cYeah, it\u2019s definitely chocolatey!\u201d <\/p>\n
Lindsay: \u201cThis new album is her best. Don\u2019t you think?\u201d <\/p>\n
Michelle: \u201cYeah I love the third song on the album. I still love her older stuff, though.\u201d <\/p>\n
3. Consider the feedback sandwic<\/em><\/strong>h: These two episodes can give you some helpful tips for staying on top of things and giving you a great way to offer your own personal feedback. Check them out for insight on how to do this in a productive way that keeps things positive. <\/p>\nBusiness English and How To Give Feedback In American Culture <\/a><\/p>\n
Bring your English to the advanced level with new vocabulary and natural expressions.<\/strong> <\/p>\n Subscribe and get the transcripts delivered by email.<\/strong> <\/p>\n Learn to speak naturally with the American accent.<\/strong><\/p>\n Click here to subscribe and save 50%<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n We just did an episode about things being overrated, and we got into a bit of a discussion about how to use this with social tact. <\/p>\n We talked about the idea of something being overrated and how that may vary amongst people.<\/p>\n What some people feel is overrated may not necessarily be a shared opinion, and this is a whole different approach here. <\/p>\n We spoke about an interesting situation that sometimes comes up.<\/p>\n What if you think something was overrated, but the other person in the conversation doesn\u2019t\u2013 in fact, they happen to LOVE the thing you think is overrated?<\/p>\n What do you do? <\/p>\n How do you handle this type of situation? <\/p>\n You want to be honest about your opinions but in the right way. <\/p>\n It\u2019s all about finding the right balance of expressing your opinion, but yet not offending the other person. <\/p>\n This is about what you say, how you say it, and ensuring that you still convey your point of view without making anyone feel bad for a difference of opinion. <\/p>\n So you want to let the other person know somehow that what they love is not necessarily a shared thing. <\/p>\n Though they may love this very thing, you are not a fan and that\u2019s okay.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t have to give into somebody else\u2019s opinion of this, but you do want to find a way to express that you aren\u2019t a fan of it. <\/p>\n However, you want to do this in a way that doesn\u2019t feel like you are making that person feel silly about their taste and preferences. <\/p>\n This is where the right words and the right way of expressing it is so important. <\/p>\n Here\u2019s what NOT to do and that matters just as much as the other alternative. <\/p>\n Lindsay: \u201cOh my GOSH Michelle. I LOVED that new Jennifer Aniston movie.\u201d <\/p>\n Michelle: \u201cWhat!!?!? Oh come ON Lindsay, it was TERRIBLE.\u201d <\/p>\n What was wrong with that? <\/p>\n The intonation that Michelle used was intense, as she clearly had a strong negative opinion. <\/p>\n It came across as though she was questioning Lindsay\u2019s judgement, which is never going to be received well. <\/p>\n You don\u2019t want to come across in this way because you will definitely risk offending this person. <\/p>\n You will see this immediately in their negative reaction if you went too far or talked too harshly. Is there ever a time when it\u2019s okay to do this? <\/p>\n You could perhaps do this with a very close friend, relative, or somebody with whom you have a very open relationship. <\/p>\n However, you would definitely want to avoid this kind of response with someone you are trying to build a connection with.<\/p>\n The only exception to that is if you have a very sarcastic type of relationship and therefore this would come across okay. <\/p>\n Why do you need to be mindful of all of this and use this only with those that you are closes with? <\/p>\n What this comes down to is a difference of opinion, and that\u2019s a healthy and normal part of life. <\/p>\n Though you may not necessarily understand why this person loves something so much that you don\u2019t, it\u2019s okay to feel differently. <\/p>\n You just want to find the best way of dealing with this so as not to upset them and to keep the peace, though you aren\u2019t on the same page about this subject. <\/p>\n So what are good ways to express you don\u2019t like something in a nicer way, but without lying? <\/p>\n 1. Be specific<\/em><\/strong>: Try to say specifically what you didn\u2019t like so that you put it out there in a factual way. It\u2019s perfectly okay to be specific like this, and it lets the other person understand where you are coming from. <\/p>\n Lindsay: \u201cThat book was AMAZING!\u201d <\/p>\n Michelle: \u201cYeah there were good parts. Did you think some of the writing was a little cheesy?\u201d <\/p>\n 2. Find one nice thing to say<\/em><\/strong>: It can even be a bit vague, but it\u2019s still finding a positive in a situation that may otherwise struggle with. If you present something positive then it makes them feel validated in a way. <\/p>\n Michelle: \u201cThis is the best cake I\u2019ve ever had.\u201d <\/p>\n Lindsay: \u201cYeah, it\u2019s definitely chocolatey!\u201d <\/p>\n Lindsay: \u201cThis new album is her best. Don\u2019t you think?\u201d <\/p>\n Michelle: \u201cYeah I love the third song on the album. I still love her older stuff, though.\u201d <\/p>\n 3. Consider the feedback sandwic<\/em><\/strong>h: These two episodes can give you some helpful tips for staying on top of things and giving you a great way to offer your own personal feedback. Check them out for insight on how to do this in a productive way that keeps things positive. <\/p>\n Business English and How To Give Feedback In American Culture <\/a><\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<\/div>\nUnderstanding Some Background<\/strong><\/h3>\n
Finding That Fine Balance<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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